As the end of the year approaches, there’s a lot of talk about change. What the next year might hold for us, what we’re going to do differently. We talk about New Year’s Resolutions, old habits we want to get rid of, new skills we want to learn. We naturally start assessing the year gone by and envisioning what next year might or could hold for us.
And for some of us, we know we NEED and WANT to make changes. Sometimes significant and dramatic ones.
We might recognise we’re up to our necks, that things have been out of sync for a long time and that essentially, we’re unhappy and craving for things to be different. For there to be a turnaround.
But knowing how to even BEGIN making these changes, let alone knowing what they are is often difficult and daunting.
When we’re overwhelmed and stressed out, with tons of things going on, it’s in fact been proven that we actually CAN’T figure out stuff and analyse things properly. Not only can we not easily see the changes we need to make, we can’t even see HOW we go about making them.
And we end up feeling lost. Confused. Disillusioned.
We may even give up on the idea of changing what’s not working for us entirely.
A Framework for Change
Change truly begins when we start moving and working through the correct succession of steps within a framework.
And once that framework has been identified, and the process mapped out, change is truly possible and available to anyone. Even if it feels in that moment of uncertainty, that moment of doubt, that it isn’t; it is.
It’s available to you. Find the right framework and change becomes possible for you.
So, the question is then, if we’re ready to start shifting things in our lives; what does this change framework look like? And what are the processes and steps involved?
Step 1. Admit to where you are – and who you are at this moment in time.
You may or may not have the life you did 10 years ago.
You may not be the person you were 10 years ago, even 2 years ago.
A lot might have happened in your life.
Working from the point where you are RIGHT NOW as an individual is key to getting the lasting and authentic changes you want. Taking a good, honest and open look at everything going on in your life, at who you are, what you like, what your beliefs are, what your values are is the absolute starting point.
Step 2. Reconnect with your body and physical self and start healing from there first.
Your connection to your body – to your sense of your physical self in the here and now and to what your body needs is the next point to work from.
You have to start healing and growing from this place first, listening to what your body needs, combatting those damaging stress hormones, and relieving fatigue using effective techniques that have tangible results behind them.
And by doing this, you also tap directly into the intuition and knowledge that is at the core of who you are, the place that knows what you need and how brilliant and capable you truly are.
Step 3. Start using your voice.
Articulating honestly to yourself and others about what’s going on, how you’re feeling and why it’s come to this is essential to change.
This may sounds obvious but this step is so often overlooked and people jump right into making changes, and then wonder why the old issues arise, why little progress has actually been made.
You need to start speaking up and addressing things.
And to do it in a safe and nourishing place where you’ll be validated, where you won’t be judged and where you’ll will be listened to.
Somewhere you can be truly honest without fear of repercussions.
Step 4. Create a vision for yourself and take action.
This final step starts by being open and truly honest about what it is you want.
No matter how big or small.
Once you have this clarity, as hard as it might be if you’re confidence is low and overwhelm is high, you then have to see and BELIEVE that these changes can happen. That change is possible and available to you. It is then, and only then that you make a plan, with appropriate steps and safety nets and markers along the way.
All we have is now.
Change can feel uncomfortable and unsettling.
Moving into unchartered waters, from a place you’ve known for a long while is frightening.
But we only have one life, one shot at this. All too often we hear how when people are on the brink of death, they rarely regret what they’d done, only what they hadn’t.
I work with women and mums like you who want to make changes, who recognise that things aren’t working.
I work with them within my programmes and classes using the exact framework above, and the framework I’ve used myself to see dramatic changes in myself and my clients over the last 18 months.
My Happy & Beyond 2019 Programme begins in February 2019, with my first online course starting this January.
So. if you’re ready to take the next step towards change, even if you have no idea where to start when considering what changes you want to make, book a consultation call with me here and let’s not waste another second.